Dating Scam Warning
Even though all the profiles on twodoves are screened before they are posted on the site, we can not guarantee the sincerity and legitimacy of those that create them.
Dating websites are increasingly being targeted by organised crime groups and individual fraudsters who try to con people into sending them money for various well spun and creative sob stories.
Our experience over the last year has shown that the majority of these scams originate from Nigeria, Ghana, Ivory Coast, Russia and to a lesser extent Cameroon, South Africa, and Romania.
Also in recent times post 2011, there has been a rise in males scamming middle aged woman. The profile is often about a well to do middle aged business man, or a ex-militray officer who is due to return from service.
It seems that young men and woman are employed to post dozens of profiles on websites each day and then after being contacted usually by older males, they throw themselves at the prospective partner confessing their undying love and loyalty.
Prospective members from these countries who claim to be Bahá'í may be asked for proof of their Bahá'í membership if their profile is suspect.
Recognizing Danger Signs
Usually, sincere Bahá'ís are easy to recognise due to the style of language and their use of terms and lingo that only Bahá'ís would know.
In like manner, scam profiles are relatively easy to recognise due to one of the following "Danger signs":
- Profiles with terrible spelling and grammar that indicate that the profile was one of maybe 100 profiles that were filled out by that person to post on a dating website
- Profiles that repeat what they are saying, eg. "I am looking for love, I am looking for love" etc. They copy the information to fill up space
- Lack of reference to the Bahá'í Faith. Non-Bahá'ís are welcome on the site, but they must mention why they are looking for a Bahá'í partner.
- Flowery romantic language about finding their soulmate.
- Their emphasis on finding an honest, God-fearing, sincere person, when they themselves by definition display none of these qualities.
- Another common scam story are about US military personell who are soon ready to return from war and settle down. This is often targeted at the middle aged woman with a soft spot for helping the "wounded".
Be Alert and Cautious...
- When someone confesses their love to you without knowing anything about you.
- When a 25 year-old man or woman is actively searching for a man or woman up to 50, 60 or even 80 years old. They obviously are not looking for a life long relationship!
- When their picture looks seductive, sexual, like a model, or someone from an advertisement. Does the picture match the written description? Sometimes the photo shows a caucasian, when they say they're black and have brown eyes. Or sometimes they have a picture of a woman but tick off the box saying they're a man.
- If they ask for money FOR ANY REASON including to save their family from ruin, to help an orphanage or NGO, or to pay for their sick mother's hospital bills. Most often these are just lies.
- If they claim a dead relative has left them money in an overseas bank account that only YOU can help retrieve.
- If they claim to be a Bahá'í but know nothing about the Faith and do not even discuss it. (Isn't that what nearly all the members of this site are here for - to find a Bahá'í partner?)
- If they contradict themselves. Often scammers are juggling multiple fake identities and can forget which character they are playing and what they have told each person they have made contact with.
Since we have started this site we have gained a lot of experience in spotting fraudsters, and we are confident that we delete most of them before they even get on the site and can make contact with other members.
However, we can not guarantee that 100% of members are genuine with pure motives. So be wise and investigate the character and background of anyone you would like to develop a relationship with.
We urge you to contact us if you find possible scam profiles or people who do not have pure intentions on the site so we can investigate further and remove them from the site.
Further information about seeing the danger signs concerning male scammers can be found here at malescammers.com.
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"The true marriage of Bahá'í is this, that husband and wife should be united both physically and spiritually, that they may ever improve the spiritual life of each other, and may enjoy everlasting unity throughout all the worlds of God. This is Bahá'í marriage." - 'Abdu'l-Bahá (Selections from the Writings of 'Abdu'l-Bahá, p. 117)
Articles, Books and Music
- Tips for Getting to Know Someone Safely
- Dating Scam Warning
- Marriage article at Bahá'í Library
- "Mindful Matrimony" by R. & F. Switzer
- "Partners in Spirit: What Couples Say About Marriages That Work" by Heather Cardin
- "Birds of Love" A treasury of uplifting words and inspiring songs by Elika Mahony especially created for weddings.
- Testimonials: People who met on twodoves
- Online Marriage course at the Wilmette Institute.
- Questions to ask a potential partner
- Marriage Transformation Project
- Baha’i Relationship Coach: Pooneh Shakibaie