Tips for getting to know someone safely over the internet
We would like to offer a few tips to members so that they can feel safe when getting to know people through our website.
- Do not include your surname, telephone number, or email anywhere in your profile. People can use this information to find you via telephone directories and you can then open yourself up to receiving unwanted phone calls and correspondence directly to your house.
- Do not be pressured into giving out your email, phone number or home address until you are ready
- Do not answer personal questions which you are not comfortable in answering, at least until you have developed a certain level of trust with the other person
- If a person says things that don't make sense, contradict somthing they said earlier or just give you a suspicious feeling - do not ignore your feelings. Investigate their character further and trust your instincts.
- If you are in doubt as to whether a person is a Bahá'í in good standing, ask the person for confirmation from their local spiritual assembly. A person with nothing to hide should have no problem with this.
- Keep in mind that people can "paint a picture" of themselves in any way they choose, so your job is to investigate their character to determine whether they are who they say they are.
- Try to find mutual friends somewhere in the Bahá'í world who can act as a reference for the other person. You need references to get a job - why not to get a spouse?
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"The true marriage of Bahá'í is this, that husband and wife should be united both physically and spiritually, that they may ever improve the spiritual life of each other, and may enjoy everlasting unity throughout all the worlds of God. This is Bahá'í marriage." - 'Abdu'l-Bahá (Selections from the Writings of 'Abdu'l-Bahá, p. 117)
Articles, Books and Music
- Tips for Getting to Know Someone Safely
- Dating Scam Warning
- Marriage article at Bahá'í Library
- "Mindful Matrimony" by R. & F. Switzer
- "Partners in Spirit: What Couples Say About Marriages That Work" by Heather Cardin
- "Birds of Love" A treasury of uplifting words and inspiring songs by Elika Mahony especially created for weddings.
- Testimonials: People who met on twodoves
- Online Marriage course at the Wilmette Institute.
- Questions to ask a potential partner
- Marriage Transformation Project
- Baha’i Relationship Coach: Pooneh Shakibaie